The typical Aquarian man is a thinker, a dreamer, a philosopher, a scientist, a social visionary. He is the least likely person to demand that his partner play a traditional role in the relationship, and he really does strive for equality and openness. But no one is more out of touch with his own feeling nature than the Aquarian man. He can be one of the most infuriating people you will ever meet when it comes to relationships. His coolness is infuriating - and deceptive. Remember that this sign has a lot of pride. Control of emotions is a big thing for Aquarians. No matter how much he's suffering, he will not grant you the satisfaction of knowing it.
Another problem is that he often sees your emotional needs as demands. Aquarians are very big on the idea of freedom. This is often carried to outlandish extremes in personal relationships. Typical of this is the Aquarian man who refuses to tell you when you'll see him again, because he doesn't "believe" in possessiveness. Or the Aquarian man who "believes" in open relationships, and tells you truthfully (because he "believes" in being truthful) about the three other lovers you have to compete with. Not that you asked. He doesn't understand why you should be hurt and make a scene. It's unreasonable. Shouldn't we all love each other? It can make even the most tolerant person develop homicidal instincts.
You may meet the type of Aquarian man who simply refuses to discuss his feelings. Or he may tell you you're being emotional, irrational, or downright hysterical. He's often grossly hypocritical about all this, because when the tables are turned, he's as capable of feeling desperate jealousy as any Scorpio. But even then, he won't admit it to himself. He'll just suffer in silence and go all frosty and detached.
The only way to deal with this kind of Aquarian is to out- Aquarius him. That means challenging his beliefs, so that he can find out whether he really believes in them or not. It means being a little unpredictable yourself, and claiming your fair share of all that freedom he talks about so freely.
Aquarians aren't adaptable, and they don't adjust easily to other people. They have their own values and ideas, and they don't like being pushed. The Aquarian man's reforming instinct doesn't apply when you try to reform him. You need to develop a good deal of detachment yourself, and some source of creative life of your own if you want to make a relationship work with an Aquarian man.
This man needs a companion who can think. Of course you need to use a certain amount of intuition to work out what's really going on beneath that rational Aquarian surface, because it's probable that he knows very little about it himself and couldn't tell you even if he tried. But if you want your Aquarian man to meet you halfway, you have to be able to meet him halfway too.
That means, first of all, being interested in his mental world, which is much bigger and broader than the daily ups and downs of one personal relationship. It also means learning to say clearly what you mean, rather than using indirect means to convey anger, hurt or disappointment. And it means allowing him enough breathing space. You might find that you probably need more breathing space yourself.
If you can climb up into the clear ethers and look around you, you'll recognise that the Aquarian man can love deeply and loyally, with integrity and kindness. His intelligence and nobility of spirit can sometimes take your breath away. But the real basis of his love is incorporeal. It's a thing of the mind and the spirit, and if you stamp all over it with screaming scenes or mundane banality, you've lost him - in spirit if not in body.
You're afraid of heights? Choose another sign. You don't have to stay airborne indefinitely. Just meet him up there from time to time, and he'll be prepared to meet you, too, from time to time, on the earth and in the realm of the heart.
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