Composite Mercury square Neptune

Confusion and crossed wires can often surface here, primarily because of previously conceived ideas and expectations. Once you have it wrong, one thing leads to another and you can find yourselves in left field before you know it and wonder how you got so far from reality. The worst of it can come when you feel that you must cover up earlier mistakes with falsehood, hoping it will all get forgotten in the end. What a tangled web we weave...It may sound silly, but just writing down what you say can be a serious remedy. A major enemy is your inability to recall what you said or agree on what went down in the past. When it's down in black and white, you have one less hurdle to overcome. You can still reinterpret a written document, but you can't reinvent it out of the whole cloth. It is a matter of constantly performing reality checks, taking nothing for granted and going over what you got right and what you got wrong until you achieve a gut-level sense of when you are balanced. This will not be an easy or quick process, and early on in the relationship, if you have to lean on firm opinions, you might do well to assign the responsibility to one or the other of you, whichever seems to be in closer touch with reality.

Excerpt from "Composite Charts- The Astrology of Relationships" by John Townley